Men and women are constantly testing each other subconsciously to see if you’re a
good choice for a long term mate. You’ll find you can prove yourself worthy by avoiding
these 10 mistakes.
MISTAKE #1 : Begging, Pleading, Being Too Needy
After a breakup people make the biggest mistake of begging their ex to take them back. I
know it seems like the right thing to do right after a breakup but in fact, it is the worst
thing you can do at this moment. Nobody wants to be with a needy person. Pleading
and being needy is unattractive and is only going to push your ex further away from you.
It will only make them think that their decision to break up with you was right.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To Persuade Your Ex To Come Back With Logic
You cannot argue or logically persuade your way back into a relationship. You can’t
convince a person to like you, love you or want to be with you. Emotions don’t work that
way.
MISTAKE #3: Playing The Role Of Human Doormat
The Doormat Syndrome in relationships is going out of your way, sacrificing your own
happiness to please your partner. It means accepting everything that your partner wants
you to do without having any demands of your own just to get back with them. If you
find yourself saying things like, “Please stay, I will do anything for you” then you may be
suffering from this syndrome.
Don’t do it because:
a) It’s unattractive and your partner’s respect for you will be lost as nobody is attracted
to someone who doesn’t have their own opinion, needs, or their hobbies.
b) Even if you do get your ex back like this, you will have
an unhappy and smothering relationship which probably won’t last very long.
MISTAKE #4: Showering Your Ex With Flowers And Gifts
Flowers and gifts are best used to say “Thank You” or “I Love You” but does nothing to
help in a broken relationship. Basically, it tells your ex you don’t believe you’re good
enough to be taken back on your own merits.
MISTAKE #5: Smothering them with affection
It is logical to assume that if your ex knows how much you care for them and love them,
they’ll come running back. However, smothering your ex with affection right now is not
romantic. Your strong feelings may in fact be the very thing that pushed your ex away to
begin with.
MISTAKE #6: Missing The Whole Point Of Chemistry
Men and women are attracted to different things. You can’t use the same tactics that
would work on you to woo a person of the opposite sex. For example men are mainly
attracted to a woman’s appearance while women are attracted to personality. This
means you need to make an effort to work on just being yourself.
MISTAKE #7: Giving Your Ex All Your Power
At this point, even if it was your ex who broke up with you, you don’t want to give them
all the power. You don’t want to be the one who is always available for them. You don’t
want to be their contingency plan. Acting like your life is over without your ex will only
lose their respect for you. In the history of breakups, no one has ever taken their ex back
out of pity.
MISTAKE #8: The Looks And Money Trap
Looks and money are not the foundations of a lasting relationship, especially after
you’ve been involved in a close relationship with the person. Some people make the
mistake of saying… “I’ll lose 10 pounds and then they’ll want me back.”
MISTAKE #9: Freaking out when your Ex Starts Seeing Someone Else
After a breakup, you feel depressed, angry confused, shattered, and are really hurting. At
this point, if your ex starts seeing someone else, it just tears you apart. Rebound
relationships happen after a break up, it’s very normal. But the good news is that they
don’t last. Sometimes, they start seeing someone else just to rub in your face that they
are moving on. In this situation, just be cool about it. Act indifferent to their new
relationship and just concentrate on your own life (career, hobbies etc.).
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
After a painful breakup, it’s a hard time for anyone to know what to do but there is a
right and a wrong way to try and win your ex back. It makes some people uncomfortable
but if you take the time to learn some things about psychology, spirituality, and people’s
basic needs and desires, you can regain control and draw your partner’s heart back in to
yours.
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